Belief In Behavior

All of us face our situations differently; we perceive and interpret the world in various different ways which makes our personalities and experiences unique from each other. A song that could bring peace to one could also anger another by the way they relate or infer it. We assume that the external factors such as the lyrics or the environmental influence make us react the way we do but on the contrary, it is the beliefs that we foster. Each individual has their own set of beliefs and opinions which they have adapted to or developed over time due to their experience that is particular to that person. Beliefs include the thought patterns, the rules we live by, the demands we make and the meanings we attach to external and internal events in our life. It is not the action or the triggering event that makes you respond the way you do but the beliefs we hold. For example, if a person cuts ahead of us in a line, some people get extremely angry yet others remain calm. Why do we get angry? That is because we believe it is wrong and fail to understand the reason and assume that they are rude. But for all we know, they had an emergency. If we stopped and tried to see it from their perspective, we may not have gotten angry. This is how beliefs affect our every reaction. This is also referred to the ABC Model in psychology which tells us that A is the activating event that works like a trigger of an emotional response; B is the representation of our beliefs that we acquire over time. C stands for the consequences including the behavior and the physical sensations that accompany different emotions as a result of our experiences in life. Many people believe that negative events cause them to act in certain ways. However, research tells us that our reactions are based on our beliefs about the situation rather than the situation itself. When adversity happens, the first thing we attempt to do is explain to ourselves why it happened rather than examine what beliefs we have which caused us to feel the way we did. The only way to improve and grow is to examine ourselves and our beliefs to adapt to the situation at hand instead of reacting in a negative manner that does not help anyone. Writing down the problem in a sequence helps us differentiate between our thoughts, feelings, behavior and the event that provoked the response that set the whole sequence in motion. Only when we focus on ourselves and who we are and what we believe, only then we can grow and change in order to understand people better; to adapt in a better manner and help others on the way.

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