You Are Not Helpless

Have you ever gone through so much bad that you just give up? Do you simply give up and leave it to fate? When faced with difficult times, many people try to do whatever they can to come out of it but some people show that when they feel like they have no control over what happens, they tend to simply give up and accept their fate. This is also called Learned Helplessness. This was first seen when animals were subjected to different circumstances that were harmful and could not escape, they would eventually give up and even when there was an opportunity to escape, they would not take it and stay where they were. When people feel that they have no control over their situation, they may begin to behave in a helpless manner. This can lead people to overlook opportunities for relief or change. For example, a child who was unable to answer math questions over a span of time gives up and believes that he is unable to perform this task. When a question comes that he is able to solve, he will still believe he is unable and experience the sensation of helplessness. Learned helplessness has also been associated with several different psychological disorders. Depression, anxiety, phobias, shyness, and loneliness can all be due to learned helplessness. Learned helplessness usually originates from childhood and unreliable or unresponsive parents are a major factor that creates this feeling. When a child is left alone to fend for themselves and are unable to handle the pressure due to a young age and neglection, they learn that there is nothing and no one that can help them. This learning follows them into adulthood leading to unhealthy patterns of behavior. This can lead to anxiety and various psychological issues.When a person experiences chronic anxiety, they sometimes give up on finding relief because their anxious feelings seem unavoidable and untreatable. Because of this, people who are experiencing mental health issues such as anxiety or depression may refuse medications or therapy that may help relieve their symptoms. So what can people do to overcome learned helplessness? Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a form of psychotherapy that can be beneficial in overcoming the thinking and behavioral patterns that contribute to learned helplessness. The goal of CBT is to help people identify their negative thought patterns that cause the feelings of learned helplessness and then replace those thoughts with more optimistic and rational thoughts. This process often involves carefully analyzing what you are thinking, actively challenging these ideas, and disputing negative thought patterns. Many people avoid therapy as they believe it will not help or people will believe that they are weak. You are not weak to ask for help, we all need it.

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